Reflection · 14 questions
This test won’t determine your gender. Nothing can — not a quiz, not a specialist, not a page on the internet. Only you.
Instead, it’s fourteen questions about everyday things: the mirror, your voice, childhood games, the “sex” box on a form. Small things on their own; together, plenty to think about.
Answer the way you feel, not the way that’s “correct”. No one’s watching.
Four answer options per question, about five minutes — and everything stays between you and your browser.
If you’d rather sort out the concepts first, start with the gender section of the guide.
Take your time: no one’s grading you here.
Answered: 0 of 14
Each answer option is worth 0 to 3 points — in order, left to right. The total lands between 0 and 42: find your range below.
Judging by your answers, you’re at ease in the gender you were handed at birth. That’s a gender identity too — it simply happens to match, which is why you barely notice it, like comfortable shoes.
What next: read how gender works for other people — it’s interesting even when everything lines up for you.
Some of it snags — and that’s fine: it happens to cis people too. Doubt doesn’t make you anything; it just makes you more attentive to yourself.
What next: reread the questions you lingered on longer than usual — they’re the most interesting part.
There’s a pattern in your answers: some of the expectations and labels clearly weren’t written with you in mind. That’s a reason to get to know yourself better — with curiosity, not anxiety.
What next: in private, try out other pronouns or a different name — a trial run, no strings attached. And open the glossary in the guide: sometimes one precise word brings more clarity than a month of mulling it over.
The mismatch here isn’t a one-off episode but something you’ve been carrying for a long time. Know this: you are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you.
What next: try writing your observations down — even in the notes app on your phone: a thought put into words takes up less room than one circling in your head. And if you get tired of untangling it alone, look for an accepting professional — just to share the questions with an actual human.
Almost every question landed somewhere familiar. That many matches is a good reason to keep exploring — gently, and on your own terms.
What next: go back to the guide and reread it start to finish — chances are it will read differently now.
It’s an internal sense of who you are: whether you feel like a man, a woman, someone in between, or outside these categories. It doesn’t depend on clothing, hairstyle, or other people’s expectations. And every person has one. If you want more precise words, have a look at the glossary in the guide.
No. Gender identity isn’t a sum of points: no questionnaire can calculate it. A test just suggests which direction to look in.
Sex is biology: chromosomes, hormones, anatomy — what was recorded at birth. Gender identity is your inner sense of self, and it may or may not match your biology. The first is visible in a medical chart; the second only from the inside. There’s a handy cheat sheet in the guide: how sex differs from gender — in short.
Yes, completely. All answers are scored right in your browser: nothing is saved, nothing is sent, nothing will surface anywhere. Close the page and the result no longer exists.
Whatever you like — that’s the point. You can do nothing with it, flip through the guide again, or talk it over with someone you trust. The result isn’t homework — it’s a note in the margins.
It happens: questions about yourself sometimes touch things that have been lying quiet for a long time.
You don’t have to sort everything out at once: this process has no schedule, and you can change your mind as many times as you need.
A calm place to get your bearings is our guide: it starts with the basics and works its way, step by step, to attraction and orientation. If it’s a live conversation you’re after, there are queer-friendly therapists — they won’t try to “fix” anything. And if the test leaves something unsaid — message me, I’m all for it.